What's so Special about the Black Man? A Conversation about Accountability

What's so Special about the Black Man? A Conversation about Accountability

What is so special about men in our society that they can never be held accountable for their actions? I would like to examine this question by presenting two examples: Bill Cosby and “Dr.” Umar Johnson. Not that these men are particularly more special than any other black man in our community. But these two black men seem to be safe from all harm, critique, and negative words being placed upon them by their own communities.

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Your Silence Will Not Protect Us

Your Silence Will Not Protect Us

In browsing my timelines on Instagram, twitter and Facebook, I’m convinced….

You really don’t care about Black Women and Black Girls

Looking at my timeline hurt.  It hurt me to see so many men I know in real life support and defend rapists, pedophiles and misogynists.  I never thought I’d see the day when so many would justify such reprehensible actions.  What’s even worse, it’s been a choir full of the strong and wrong with such reasoning that is rooted in ignorance, stereotypes and fake news. 

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When Black Women? When?

When Black Women? When?

I love being a black woman.  I love what we are made of; incredible strength, resilience, courage and the capacity to love in spite of the hate spewed towards us.  I love our opinions, our sass, we have spice!  Our beauty is unmatched, we are uniquely and divinely made, so many different hues of beauty and style.  There are so many things that make me proud to be both black and woman.  However, it’s time to grab my sisters by the hand and usher them into the meeting room.  It’s time to have a real conversation amongst the “sistahs”.  We have some work to do, some problems to address and real issues to confront.  Come have a seat at the table…

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When Racism and Misogyny Meet...A Black Woman's Dilemma

When Racism and Misogyny Meet...A Black Woman's Dilemma

I realize that, as a people, African-Americans are moving in the “endangered species” zone. More than once a week, there is an announcement made about another death. Of another black brother. By the hands of another non-black man. With these types of deaths, it is paramount that the community of said person stands together in unity, if for no other reason than to stand in support of those who have lost a loved one. It is not uncommon for African-Americans to use “race first” as their mantra when defending themselves/standing up against racial and social injustices. But the recent murder of Stephon Clark (and the revelation of his thoughts about black women) has me thinking: do black men march for women the way black women march for them?

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Am I My Sister's Keeper?

Am I My Sister's Keeper?

There used to be a time when the one spoke for the many because the many trust the one. We have to return to this community mindset as women of color. In these times more than others, a united front has to be presented to the world. Not based on likeability or popularity but based on survival. We control our own destinies and instead of begging for a seat at someone else’s table; why not gather up our tribe and build our own table? We have to create intentional experiences for our sisters to survive and thrive and be so confident in our own, unique awesomeness that the idea that someone who looks like me having that same amazingness it not seen as a threat but a complement to our existence. There is enough room at the top for all our collective goodness to succeed but we have to change our mindset, hopefully sooner rather than later, hopefully...now

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FAKE 4:44- Stop Blaming Everything On Mental Illness!

FAKE 4:44- Stop Blaming Everything On Mental Illness!

As a result of the song and the album’s equally important themes,  conversations about Mental Health and Black men has been in the forefront with seminars, discussion groups etc. with black men discussing being vulnerable, healing and emotional availability.  Black men addressing toxic masculinity, mental illness and emotional issues in safe spaces has brought joy to my soul because it’s a conversation that is necessary and needed.  I watched “Footnotes to 4:44” and listened to black men get real about love and relationships, I felt hopeful.  It was raw, honest and real.  However, being accountable for your actions, real remorse and true healing cannot come without honesty and truth; first with yourself then with others. As Jay Z says, “you can’t heal what you won’t reveal”.  You gotta be watchful of the “Fake 4:44’s”, using the idea of vulnerability in a dishonest way. 

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#HimToo: A Powerful Reflection on Sexual Assault

#HimToo:  A Powerful Reflection on Sexual Assault

According to the Woodhull Freedom Foundation, an organization that focuses entirely on protecting sexual freedom and ending sexual violence, 1 in 33 men have experienced an attempted or completed rape in their lifetime but many believe that number is conservative.  In October 2017, African American actor, Terry Crews shared his story of being sexually assaulted by Adam Venit, Head of the motion picture department of William Morris.  He filed a report to the LAPD about the alleged assault.  His candor in sharing his story brought an onslaught of conversations and criticism. Today on the blog, guest writer, Kawana Williams shares her thoughts on why we dismiss the stories of sexual assault when it comes to black men.

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Advice For These Times

Advice For These Times

Every day we are inundated with images of where our world has gone and we are left with questions of how did we get here and what can we do to change our course. The unfortunate thing is...this is not the first time we, Americans, have been faced with racism, bigotry and pure hatred and disdain for one another. We have seen this same barrage of images before. However, unlike any other time in history, technology has made it almost impossible to escape the world wide terror that is erupting around the country. In order for us to traverse these rough waters ahead and come out with our sanity, there are a few things we MUST do:

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The Mis-Education of the Negro

The Mis-Education of the Negro

About 4 months ago I was made aware of at least 4 homicides that occurred within some days, if not weeks, of each other: two in San Bernardino, California; one in Cleveland, Ohio; and one in Chicago, Illinois, respectively. And while all of the incidents were isolated, they all have one commonality: all stemmed from issues surrounding domestic violence. What I find most disturbing are the reactions of individuals not toward the abusers, but toward the victims………..THE VICTIMS!!!!!!!!!!!! As you read this, please be sure to insert an obligatory deep sigh, 360 degree neck roll, and knuckle pop...all of which I am currently doing as I prepare to offer an education on the intricate nuances of domestic violence and spousal abuse.

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