The Adequate Child

The Adequate Child

Somewhere along the way, we as parents have stressed not only ourselves out chasing this “Exceptional” child score but we have stressed out our kids as well. In many states standardized testing, gifted testing and selective enrollment processes have turned us into number counters on a mission to make our kids THE BEST. We encourage them from the time they can walk to be great at a sport. We drill them with flashcards and charts on walls to make sure they can read before they can even stand up so they will be ahead of the game. We tell them they have to be the best and get up early to catch the proverbial worm so they do not get left behind.

Read More

The Love Series: "Loving Through Adversity"

The Love Series: "Loving Through Adversity"

May is Mental Health Awareness month, and I wanted to continue my series on “Love and Relationships” by addressing the question:  Loving through Adversity:  How do you love someone who’s broken?  Is it possible? Is Love enough?  This portion of the Love and Relationship series begins with a guest post from writer, author, and poet, Nikki Rucker. I consider her a friend and lovingly call her one of my “little sisters.” She’s a phenomenal mother and wife who writes with such authenticity and transparency.  Today on the blog, Nikki shares her story of loving someone through adversity and brokenness.  Nikki courageously lifts the veil around mental illness in the black community and gives us an inside look into what it feels like to love someone in the midst of adversity. Her story is one of so many in our community, and I thank her for her openness and willingness to share.  –D. Sanders

Read More

DEAR AGENT ORANGE...

DEAR AGENT ORANGE...

I have watched you for the last few years bully, humiliate, disrespect and dishonor the 44th President, his family, and many other Americans. You have attacked the disabled, the LGBT community, women, minorities, The Pope, War Heroes, Civil Rights Icons and immigrants.   You have removed the mask of racism, sexism, homophobia, xenophobia and exposed yourself and your followers for the hateful people you are.  However, as you have tried to blanket a county in fear with your hateful and immature tweets and speeches, I stand strong in my fight against you and those like you who refuse to embrace diversity, social justice, human decency, ethics, integrity, unity and change.   You’ve awakened the fight in me and in the spirit of my ancestors I will resist your hate with every inch of my soul.  I will not watch your speeches, I will block your tweets, and I will by any means necessary protect my peace.

Read More