When Sisterhood Goes Wrong

When Sisterhood Goes Wrong

These are a core set of my friends. My true friends. The friends who, when I am at my worst……they point it out, tell me to get my shit together because I’m better than whatever I’m doing or being, and feed me afterwards like a real friend should. The friends who will show up and out for me if I need, or want, them to. The friends who love me, despite me. The friends who will fight for me……like, LITERALLY fight for me. The friends who will fight me when I’m wrong. The friends who will fight FOR me when I’m right. The friends who, beyond my blood family, have been my support system since I was 15 years old. The friends who I trust with my life…..who would never betray me…….or lie to me……or dishonor our friendship in any way. Friends don’t do that…………right?

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Why We Need Safe Spaces of Sisterhood

Why We Need Safe Spaces of Sisterhood

Recently I spoke with one of my oldest friends and we were talking about how difficult it is to be married and the challenges that come with it and how there are so many times we feel alone in our issues because we don’t want other people to know we are going through the things we are going through. We laughed, we yelled, we joked about the things we were both going through and when I hung up I felt like I had just left her house. The invaluable advice on how to survive and the confidential ability to release all of the otherwise unspoken emotions that were bottled up in our hearts and minds is truly priceless. When I exhaled and realized my shoulders weren’t as high up as they were before we spoke, it hit me just how important having a safe space of sisterhood truly is.

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Safe Spaces of Sisterhood-Pt 4: "Circles of Trust"

Safe Spaces of Sisterhood-Pt 4: "Circles of Trust"

Trust is the foundation of any great relationship.  It is the fertilizer nourishing the soil that help our relationships bloom.  Without it, weeds come to choke the life out of those relationships, and they die.  Many of us have “trust” issues, and those issues cause us to enter the never-ending cycle of dysfunctional friendships.  Past hurts by those disguised as friends cause us to look at people differently and put walls up.  I see this so much in female relationships.  We don’t trust one another

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Safe Spaces of Sisterhood: Pt 3-Take Time

Safe Spaces of Sisterhood: Pt 3-Take Time

Time is our most precious resource. We live in a time where we are ridiculously overscheduled. Women struggle with making time to get everything done. While juggling so many different hats, how do you make time for it all and still maintain strong bonds with your tribe? 

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SAFE SPACES OF SISTERHOOD-PT. 2 ACCOUNTABILITY IN FRIENDSHIPS

SAFE SPACES OF SISTERHOOD-PT. 2 ACCOUNTABILITY IN FRIENDSHIPS

One of the foundations of any sisterhood is a sense of accountability.   I expect my friends to hold me accountable for my actions and I hold them responsible for theirs. It is what makes us better people in the long run.  Having friends who love you enough to tell you, “Hey, you can do better,” or “what happened to that idea you had” or what are you doing to pursue your dreams” is a blessing.  These are questions that are necessary for our growth and development.  They push us outside of our comfort zones and often times lead us right to our purpose.   Women who are surrounded by other women, who dare to challenge and inspire one another, achieve a higher level of personal and professional elevation.

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INTRODUCTION: SAFE SPACES OF SISTERHOOD (A NEW SERIES)

INTRODUCTION: SAFE SPACES OF SISTERHOOD (A NEW SERIES)

Friends, Good Girlfriends, Your crew, Yaya’s, homies, etc…

there are many words to describe your friends. The group of ladies in your life that make life sweeter.  This new series will have us exploring our friendships and discovering ways to strengthen those bonds and deal with the different dynamics in female relationships that seek to divide us.  It’s all about “sisterhood” for the next few days.

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SAFE SPACES OF SISTERHOOD: PT 1

SAFE SPACES OF SISTERHOOD: PT 1

This isn’t new as it has been done before; Beyoncé vs Solange, Serena vs Venus, etc.   Isn’t there space for each of them?  Can’t they both be great?   Isn’t it possible that women can actually promote, admire and respect one another while each excelling in their particular fields?  Why do people get so upset when women uplift one another and validate them and their experience?  

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INTRODUCTION: THE HEALING SERIES

INTRODUCTION:  THE HEALING SERIES

I choose “Heal” as my word for 2017.  As I reflected on the year 2017, healing was the one thing I wanted most.  The last half of 2016 was interesting in that it forced me to stop, slow down and really start to analyze relationships, situations and areas in my life.  I wrote them all down and decided to tackle them one by one with the intention of purging my spirit of negative feelings and emotions and finding peace and healing in the areas in my life that have caused me stress, trauma and pain.  It was time to get rid of some stuff, some baggage and dead weight that I’ve been carrying around for too long.  I could literally feel the burden of the weight I was carrying.   Sometimes life puts you in a holding pattern to teach you something before you progress to the next level. 

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LOVE & FRIENDSHIP

LOVE & FRIENDSHIP

There are so many different aspects to my personality, the man I wind up sharing space and time has to understand, accept and love me the same way my friends do. It requires a man with strength, patience, integrity, ambition, understanding and a strong moral character.

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