The Life Audit: Week 4/The Health & Wellness Audit

The Life Audit: Week 4/The Health & Wellness Audit

As we audit different areas of our life, we are taking inventory of things that we can change, alter, adjust or do differently in order to enjoy a better quality of life.  Our overall health and wellness is essential.  Wellness is the state of being in good health.  This is a process of becoming more aware and making choices towards living healthy.   It’s much more than physical; it involves our mental health and our emotional health.  This week we are auditing how our bodies feel as we navigate through the ebbs and flows of life.

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The Life Audit: Week 2/ What Are You? (The Spiritual Audit)

The Life Audit: Week 2/ What Are You? (The Spiritual Audit)

We live in a world where we try to control and plan everything. We are overscheduled and celebrate “busyness”.   As a result we often deal with emotions such as fear, worry, doubt and overthinking.  This portion of the Life Audit is about identifying ways to enjoy life right now no matter what the circumstances may be. It is about discovering what makes us feel alive.

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The Life Audit: Week 1/ Who Are You? (The Character Audit)

The Life Audit: Week 1/ Who Are You? (The Character Audit)

Character is defined as the mental and moral qualities distinctive to an individual.  This week as part of the Life Audit, we will be examining our character.  Our Character is the foundation of who we are and I thought it was important to audit this area of our lives first.   Who are you? What do you believe? What morals and standards do you have?  This is a time for reflection. Think about the very core of who you are and how you want to live your life.

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Living a Life with Intention...A Year Long Series

Living a Life with Intention...A Year Long Series

I chose intention as my 2019 word of the year because it summed up exactly what I wanted to do this year.  I want every move I make to be made with clear intentions.   I don’t operate well in gray areas; I prefer my life to be very black and white. As I began to think about this word, the first thing that came to my mind was how? How do I live with intention?  That’s what I plan to explore on my blog this year.   Instead of just proclaiming my word for the year and writing a post about it at the end of the year, I want to focus on this word and each month, illustrate how I’m attempting to live a life with intention. Consider it my way of holding myself accountable to each of you for practicing what I preach! 

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2018 Year End Reflection and My 2019 "Word of the Year"

2018 Year End Reflection and My 2019 "Word of the Year"

I struggled with this year’s reflection.  The word I chose for 2018 was freedom.  This year I’ve never felt less free.  In fact, I’ve felt incredibly dependent and held captive.   How do I sum this year up in so many words?  Did I even manifest my word for 2018?  As I began to write this reflection, I realized that freedom did manifest in my life this year but not in the way I anticipated.

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Lost In Transition

Lost In Transition

I’m retreating from the world because it’s hard right now.  I hate wearing a mask and I feel like I have to do it daily at work at then at home with my family.  I’m tired of pretending I’m strong and have it all together.  Right now…I don’t.   I’m emotionally, mentally and financially drained.  Quite honestly, my life feels like it’s falling apart and I have no idea how to put it back together again.

How do you navigate through these difficult transitions without hiding under your sheets in a sea of your own tears?

 

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Love Is...-"Problematic" ?

Love Is...-"Problematic" ?

As I finished the last episode of the first season, I struggled to find the “love” in this love story.  Instead I saw an extremely toxic and one sided relationship.  Yasir is the epitome of a man exhibiting toxic masculinity.  He’s a leech, using one woman while pursuing a relationship with another, angry at everyone but himself, selfish and self-centered and prideful.  Nuri is a woman who appears to have it together, she’s educated, rising in her career field, financially stable yet she continues to give and sacrifice pieces of herself in an effort to be loved.  Watching the relationship between Yasir and Nuri develop has been entertaining but definitely left me with questions.

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How Does She Do It?

How Does She Do It?

How do you do it all?  

I get asked that question all the time and my answer is usually, “I put one foot in front of the other and move forward”.  I suppose it’s not that simple however.  I never anticipated being a single mom.  In fact, it was one of my biggest fears.  Prior to getting married, I watched single friends of mine get pregnant only to have the men they loved walk out of the lives of their children and leave them to raise children alone.  I saw the disappointment in their faces, the sadness, the frustration and I didn’t want that for myself.  I swore I’d choose a good partner/mate/future father and build a family together.  It was important to me.  I thought it was that simple and couldn’t have been more wrong.  LIFE HAPPENED…

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..."And Were You Good To Yourself?"...

..."And Were You Good To Yourself?"...

…”I don’t think so. But, I forgive you, girl, who tallied stretch marks into reasons why no one should get close. I forgive you, silly girl, sweet breath, decent by default. I forgive you for being afraid. Did everything betray you? Even the rain you love so much made rust out of your jewelry? I forgive you, soft spoken girl speaking with fake brash voice, fooling no one. I see you, tender even on your hardest days. I forgive you, waiting for him to call; I forgive you, the diets and the cruel friends. Especially for that one time you said ‘I fucking give up on love, it’s not worth it, and I’d rather be alone forever’. You were just pretending, weren’t you? I know you didn’t mean that. Your body, your mouth, your heart, made specifically for loving. Sometimes the things we love will kill us, but weren’t we dying anyway? I forgive you for being something that will eventually die. Perishable goods, fading out slowly, little human, I wouldn’t want to be in a world where you don’t exist…”-Warsan Shire

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Sometimes You Just Have to Reset...

Sometimes You Just Have to Reset...

2018 hasn’t started the way I hoped it would. It’s been full of challenges that would seek to sideline me from my goals.  The vision board I created for this year has been an extreme help because I see it every day and use it as a reminder to stay focused, do the work and allow the universe to let freedom manifest in my life.   I can say I’m taking better care of myself. I’m treating myself better.  Taking time away when I need it, resting more, enjoying more experiences with my friends and my family and practicing daily self-care.   I’m slowly finding my balance and equilibrium and when it gets to be overwhelming, I just hit the reset button and begin again.  When I fall back into old habits and old mindsets, I just hit the reset button and begin again.  I'm letting go of the need to be perfect and embracing the desire to be authentically me and loving myself through it all.  I’m finding freedom slowly but more importantly, I’m finding myself again.

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2017 Year-End Reflections and 2018 Word of The Year

2017 Year-End Reflections and 2018 Word of The Year

I choose the word, “HEAL”, for 2017.  At the time, I had no idea what I was asking the universe. 2017 was the year that broke me all the way down, revealing the cracks in my foundation.   I don’t remember a year like this; full of so many highs and devastating lows. 

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Finding The Good in Goodbye

Finding The Good in Goodbye

As we continue to explore ways of practicing gratitude, I wanted to explore ways to find the good in goodbye.  There are moments when relationships have to end.  Friendships, work partnerships, intimate relationships; we’ve all felt the uneasiness and or pain of ending relationships that no longer serve you, honor you or we simply just outgrow them.  This year, I’ve had to say goodbye to a couple of relationships that at some point were incredibly meaningful to me.  Where’s the good in that?

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A Season of Gratitude

A Season of Gratitude

It’s so easy to be grateful during the good times. How can you be grateful when dealing with heartache, loss of a job, the death of a loved one, financial struggles and/or  illness etc.?  Even more, how can you be grateful for the negative experiences that are occurring in your life? 

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The Adequate Child

The Adequate Child

Somewhere along the way, we as parents have stressed not only ourselves out chasing this “Exceptional” child score but we have stressed out our kids as well. In many states standardized testing, gifted testing and selective enrollment processes have turned us into number counters on a mission to make our kids THE BEST. We encourage them from the time they can walk to be great at a sport. We drill them with flashcards and charts on walls to make sure they can read before they can even stand up so they will be ahead of the game. We tell them they have to be the best and get up early to catch the proverbial worm so they do not get left behind.

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Seasons Change

Seasons Change

Living in Chicago, you are lucky if you get to experience all 4 seasons. Normally you just get winter and summer with an about a month of fall and spring. Fall is in the air now and I’m noticing what an incredible metaphor for life each change of season has. It’s a period of transition…much similar to what has been happening in my own life.

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