When Sisterhood Goes Wrong

When Sisterhood Goes Wrong

These are a core set of my friends. My true friends. The friends who, when I am at my worst……they point it out, tell me to get my shit together because I’m better than whatever I’m doing or being, and feed me afterwards like a real friend should. The friends who will show up and out for me if I need, or want, them to. The friends who love me, despite me. The friends who will fight for me……like, LITERALLY fight for me. The friends who will fight me when I’m wrong. The friends who will fight FOR me when I’m right. The friends who, beyond my blood family, have been my support system since I was 15 years old. The friends who I trust with my life…..who would never betray me…….or lie to me……or dishonor our friendship in any way. Friends don’t do that…………right?

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Why We Need Safe Spaces of Sisterhood

Why We Need Safe Spaces of Sisterhood

Recently I spoke with one of my oldest friends and we were talking about how difficult it is to be married and the challenges that come with it and how there are so many times we feel alone in our issues because we don’t want other people to know we are going through the things we are going through. We laughed, we yelled, we joked about the things we were both going through and when I hung up I felt like I had just left her house. The invaluable advice on how to survive and the confidential ability to release all of the otherwise unspoken emotions that were bottled up in our hearts and minds is truly priceless. When I exhaled and realized my shoulders weren’t as high up as they were before we spoke, it hit me just how important having a safe space of sisterhood truly is.

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Safe Spaces of Sisterhood-Pt 4: "Circles of Trust"

Safe Spaces of Sisterhood-Pt 4: "Circles of Trust"

Trust is the foundation of any great relationship.  It is the fertilizer nourishing the soil that help our relationships bloom.  Without it, weeds come to choke the life out of those relationships, and they die.  Many of us have “trust” issues, and those issues cause us to enter the never-ending cycle of dysfunctional friendships.  Past hurts by those disguised as friends cause us to look at people differently and put walls up.  I see this so much in female relationships.  We don’t trust one another

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INTRODUCTION: SAFE SPACES OF SISTERHOOD (A NEW SERIES)

INTRODUCTION: SAFE SPACES OF SISTERHOOD (A NEW SERIES)

Friends, Good Girlfriends, Your crew, Yaya’s, homies, etc…

there are many words to describe your friends. The group of ladies in your life that make life sweeter.  This new series will have us exploring our friendships and discovering ways to strengthen those bonds and deal with the different dynamics in female relationships that seek to divide us.  It’s all about “sisterhood” for the next few days.

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