The Adequate Child

The Adequate Child

Somewhere along the way, we as parents have stressed not only ourselves out chasing this “Exceptional” child score but we have stressed out our kids as well. In many states standardized testing, gifted testing and selective enrollment processes have turned us into number counters on a mission to make our kids THE BEST. We encourage them from the time they can walk to be great at a sport. We drill them with flashcards and charts on walls to make sure they can read before they can even stand up so they will be ahead of the game. We tell them they have to be the best and get up early to catch the proverbial worm so they do not get left behind.

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#ThursdayThoughts: What Have You Agreed To...About Yourself?

#ThursdayThoughts:  What Have You Agreed To...About Yourself?

After reading the book “The Four Agreements”, the one message that stood out to me was the notion that we must be careful about what we put out into the universe because what we put out is what we agree with.  The Author also spoke about the power of words and to be careful how we allow others to speak to and about us, because the words they attach to us can also become things we agree with.  I finished the book and went on with my life. Slowly but surely some of the key messages in the book began to remind me  of some of the things I have agreed with over the course of my life and it definitely explains why my life does not look like it does in my wildest dreams.

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The Love Series: "Loving Through Adversity"

The Love Series: "Loving Through Adversity"

May is Mental Health Awareness month, and I wanted to continue my series on “Love and Relationships” by addressing the question:  Loving through Adversity:  How do you love someone who’s broken?  Is it possible? Is Love enough?  This portion of the Love and Relationship series begins with a guest post from writer, author, and poet, Nikki Rucker. I consider her a friend and lovingly call her one of my “little sisters.” She’s a phenomenal mother and wife who writes with such authenticity and transparency.  Today on the blog, Nikki shares her story of loving someone through adversity and brokenness.  Nikki courageously lifts the veil around mental illness in the black community and gives us an inside look into what it feels like to love someone in the midst of adversity. Her story is one of so many in our community, and I thank her for her openness and willingness to share.  –D. Sanders

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