Lost In Transition

Lost In Transition

I’m retreating from the world because it’s hard right now.  I hate wearing a mask and I feel like I have to do it daily at work at then at home with my family.  I’m tired of pretending I’m strong and have it all together.  Right now…I don’t.   I’m emotionally, mentally and financially drained.  Quite honestly, my life feels like it’s falling apart and I have no idea how to put it back together again.

How do you navigate through these difficult transitions without hiding under your sheets in a sea of your own tears?

 

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The Best Advice My Mom Ever Gave Me...

The Best Advice My Mom Ever Gave Me...

I spent the next nine months trying to prepare myself.  I read every book, watched every baby show, went to ever pre-natal appointment with a list of questions and created the safest, most amazing, Thomas the Train nursery. I followed the “What to expect when you are expecting” book like it was the bible and my husband and I bought the best, the newest, and most technologically advanced baby equipment we could afford.

…AND WHERE WAS MY OWN MOM DURING THIS TIME?

she was right by my side…laughing hysterically

My mom knew what I couldn’t comprehend at the time…NOTHING prepares you for motherhood! NOTHING!  The one piece of wisdom my mother told me was this…

“MOTHERHOOD WILL TEACH YOU HOW TO PRAY”

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Love Stories: Love and Friendship

Love Stories:  Love and Friendship

As I think about those relationships, I realize why friendship is so vital to any romantic relationship. There is an ease in my friendships.  I don’t feel like I’m walking on eggshells.  I don’t have to put on any masks. All I have to do is be myself.   There is freedom in these relationships. That is something I desire with the man in my life.

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2017 Year-End Reflections and 2018 Word of The Year

2017 Year-End Reflections and 2018 Word of The Year

I choose the word, “HEAL”, for 2017.  At the time, I had no idea what I was asking the universe. 2017 was the year that broke me all the way down, revealing the cracks in my foundation.   I don’t remember a year like this; full of so many highs and devastating lows. 

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A Season of Gratitude

A Season of Gratitude

It’s so easy to be grateful during the good times. How can you be grateful when dealing with heartache, loss of a job, the death of a loved one, financial struggles and/or  illness etc.?  Even more, how can you be grateful for the negative experiences that are occurring in your life? 

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The Problematic Empath

The Problematic Empath

I walk around life with more emotions than most.  I always have.  I’m loyal to a fault and tend to take on the problems and emotions of my friends and loved ones.  If my friend is going through a divorce, it’s as if I’m going through it to. If another friend was cheated on in her relationship, I hate the guy just as much as she does.  If my friend is struggling with her child, it’s as if it’s my own child. I feel things deeply…like too much.  If my girl is broke, I’m trying to help her as if my own lights are going to be cut off.   If my friend has found a new love, new job, new opportunity, I’m excited as if was me! It is more than compassion; it’s literally the ability to feel someone else’s emotions as strong as if they were my own.  As I get older, I’m more in tuned with the empath that lives inside of me.  The person that lives inside of me that really just wants “my people to be ok” in every sense of the word. It’s a huge reason why “The Sum of Many Things” was birthed.  It was birthed out a desire for women, particularly women of color, to be affirmed, heard and well. My heart is my greatest asset because it’s gives freely. 

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2016 Reflections and 2017 Word of the Year

2016 Reflections and 2017 Word of the Year

Advance was my word of the year for 2016.  I advanced in my career by taking on new roles during our company merger and responsibilities that I believe put me in a better position to excel in 2017.  As an artist, I advanced by launching my website, new blog and working on my first book.   

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2015 YEAR END REFLECTIONS AND 2016 WORD OF THE YEAR

2015 YEAR END REFLECTIONS AND 2016 WORD OF THE YEAR

2015 is the year I was EMANCIPATED...

Emancipation is defined as The fact or process of being set free from legal, social, or political restrictions; liberation.

As with every “one word” challenge, that word and definition manifested itself in my life during 2015. I was set free mentally, spiritually, psychologically, and emotionally from things that have been a burden on my spirit and in my life.

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