Anatomy of a Breakup: Pt.3-The Healing Power of Time

Anatomy of a Breakup:  Pt.3-The Healing Power of Time

We don’t take time to heal in relationships. We are so focused on moving on and getting over the end of a relationship we find ourselves in messy situations or other relationships that could have been avoided if we had just recognized and acknowledged our feelings and taken the time to process and deal with them. We are trying to microwave our emotional healing.

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#ThursdayThoughts: Anatomy of a Breakup: PT.2-HOLD UP! (Denial and Anger)

#ThursdayThoughts:  Anatomy of a Breakup: PT.2-HOLD UP! (Denial and Anger)

It’s important to recognize where you are and take impeccable care of yourself during this time. If you let it, your anger can be exactly what you need to push you right out of sadness and into a clear mental space.  You begin to realize what you wanted was not what you received. You begin to understand that the universe is loyal to you because it will remove things in your life that don’t honor you, making way to better things.  Coming out of denial and anger is just another step in your re-awakening and re-discovering who you are after heartbreak.

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#ThursdayThoughts: Anatomy of a Breakup-The Moment of Impact

#ThursdayThoughts: Anatomy of a Breakup-The Moment of Impact

Sometimes it starts with a feeling. Something is off.  Silence, distance, fewer phone calls and text…you know something isn’t right. Do you say something or do you ignore it thinking things will get better? Even when you know a relationship is coming to an end, the actual END of it can cause a range of emotions.  It’s a withdrawal of sorts.  One minute you are accustomed to the phone calls, text messages and date nights and then just like that…it’s over…nothing. This initial “Shock” phase is filled with emotions.

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#ThursdayThoughts: What Kind of Friend Are You Really? (A Life Lesson in the Midst of Loss)

#ThursdayThoughts: What Kind of Friend Are You Really? (A Life Lesson in the Midst of Loss)

We all get busy; it seems like life is moving faster and faster every day.  Death and loss have a way of slowing it down and shifting your focus.  Life really is all about balance and equilibrium and we can always do better.  Tell the ones you care about how much you love them, make time for one another and do it as often as you can.  Life really is short and people you care about can be taken away in an instant.  Sometimes, there isn’t a “next time”.

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#ThursdayThoughts: For the Men Who Stand In The Gap (A Father's Day tribute from a single mom"

#ThursdayThoughts: For the Men Who Stand In The Gap (A Father's Day tribute from a single mom"

Father’s day used to be a weird holiday for me.  When the kids were younger, I was newly separated and was trying to figure out how to spend this day with my children in a way that never made them feel like they “were different” or “missing something.”  It was a difficult and challenging time.  I’d take my kids out to eat for something special, and I’d see looks of pity on people’s faces.  One lady even offered to pay for my family’s meal out of pity.  I would see red on those days.   As I got older and my kids were adjusting to this new family structure, I would spend my holiday as I did most holidays, with my Dad.   Nowadays, Father’s day seems to be split into celebrating Fatherhood and attacking single moms, at least on social media. It’s a sad state of affairs so I usually log off and disengage, rather than see the venom spewed on what should be a celebratory occasion.  So, what does a single mom do on Father’s Day? How do I celebrate when the father of my children is completely absent from their lives?  I could spend my time angry at the world, or I could wallow in sadness and victimhood, or I could choose to celebrate the men in my life who have stood in the gap and been father figures to my children. 

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#ThursdayThoughts: A letter to the first man I ever Loved (A Father's Day Tribute)

#ThursdayThoughts:  A letter to the first man I ever Loved (A Father's Day Tribute)

As a child, he was the man who taught me how to ride a bike, how to drive, the man who terrorized my dates as a teenager and the man who always made things better with Ice Cream.  He’s the dad that would take us on “family trips” to the clock museum and railroad museum.  Those road trips are legendary! LOL.    He is the dad that always had the camera at every one of my school events and graduations!   He’s the man I’ve called my dad since I was 6 or 7.  He’s the only father I’ve ever known

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#ThursdayThoughts: What Have You Agreed To...About Yourself?

#ThursdayThoughts:  What Have You Agreed To...About Yourself?

After reading the book “The Four Agreements”, the one message that stood out to me was the notion that we must be careful about what we put out into the universe because what we put out is what we agree with.  The Author also spoke about the power of words and to be careful how we allow others to speak to and about us, because the words they attach to us can also become things we agree with.  I finished the book and went on with my life. Slowly but surely some of the key messages in the book began to remind me  of some of the things I have agreed with over the course of my life and it definitely explains why my life does not look like it does in my wildest dreams.

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