We Survive...and We Thrive!

Survivor:  a person who copes well with difficulties in their life

As a writer, I am aware of the power of words.  There is power in the words we share, the words we speak and the words we write.  At the end of last month, I decided to create a blog series, and open it up to any woman who wanted to share their story of survival.   October was Breast Cancer and Domestic Violence Awareness month and typically October is a difficult month for me.  I am a Domestic Violence Survivor. I was in a DV Marriage for 8 years and spent another 8 years rebuilding my life, my spirit, my self-esteem and my world after.  Quite frankly, I’m still healing and rebuilding.    The survivor series was birthed out of my personal belief that we are united by shared experiences.  I wanted women to come together, to share their stories in a space free of judgment and critique and my prayer was that their stories would help free someone else.  It wasn’t just about writing about the bad things that happened to us but about how we survived them, how we thrived in spite of the obstacles and how resilient we are.  I just knew this series would be powerful and inspiring. It was about the moment we decide not to be victims but survivors!

When I asked women to share their stories I was inundated with these incredible tales of strength.  Quite frankly, I was overwhelmed at the response.  I stopped calling myself a victim a long time ago and when I looked in the mirror, I stopped seeing a victim.  That took some time, some healing and a lot of intense soul work.  I’m a huge believer of speaking power, and life over every aspect of our lives. It is only then that we can all live from a place of survivor mentality instead of victim mentality. We are not what we have been through. We are so much more than that.  We are women who have risen above and did the work in order to move forward in our lives in a more positive way.

This series sparked something in me and made me realize how much women need safe spaces to share their stories of survival and healing.  As a result, I have decided to continue this series and make it a permanent part of my website.  Once a month, I’ll choose one of your stories to share.   If you are reading this and going through something difficult,  I hope you read these stories and know that inside of you lies a strength you haven’t tapped into yet. It is possible to survive anything as is evident in the variety of the stories shared this past month. Thank you for coming on this journey with me and I hope you continue to participate, share, and engage with each of these amazing women.

If you or someone you know is interested, in sharing their survival story, please email me at sumofmanythings@gmail.com

Take care of yourselves and one another,

D. Sanders